Just some random thoughts. It was a while since I did a post on anything other than books.
I have been part of many Facebook or WhatsApp groups and I have noticed a common trend these days. People are rude. They comment very rudely if they do not agree with you. Are people more rude on the Internet, than they would be in real life? Just because you are not talking to a person face to face, people take the liberty of talking rudely as if they are slapping the other person. I am not sure if these people have the courage to answer rudely in real life if this discussion was happening offline. Bullying in comments sections in Facebook groups or in WhatsApp groups or on twitter just because you can is so wrong. Why not treat a discussion the same way you would if you were talking offline? This is one of the reasons why I have decided to not participate in any discussions online. I do not want to disagree with anyone or post my opinions on any controversial subject online. Thankfully, blogs have not been affected and I do not see rude people commenting on my posts disagreeing with me. So until that happens, I will put my thoughts on my blog and not elsewhere on the Internet.
I feel there is no right or wrong way of parenting. What works for a sensitive child may not work for a stubborn child. What works for my kid is talking to him softly, requesting him to do something and making him understand why I want him to do something. Ordering or threatening him will make him even more stubborn. Recently, I enrolled my son to a new daycare and the lady there started threatening him to make him stop crying. As you can guess, it got worse to the point that he started crying as soon as he woke up refusing to go to the daycare. I finally had to remove him and put him in a new daycare. This new daycare owner is very soft spoken and nice because of which my son loves her. He likes going to this new place. Some people think that being hard on kids is great and that disciplining kids is more important than showing love. I completely disagree. I do not agree with giving timeouts or yelling at children or even beating them, no matter how impatient you are or how bad your day has been. Even if the kid is being stubborn, you should still control yourself. You should understand that it is okay to lose an argument or fight with the kid. I prefer talking to them in a calm manner or better give timeouts for yourselves if you are out of patience. They are after all humans and have feelings.
Women managers act like they are school headmistress or teacher trying to discipline kids for some reason. This is one of the reasons for not liking any woman who is in a powerful role. I think they just cannot handle it (that’s my observation. And yes, I am a feminist and I am all for equal rights before you kick me). Since there are hardly any women who make it to higher roles in an organization, they probably think they are great or something. Women managers don’t help women employees. In fact, they make sure they screw the women who report to them. I have had great male managers but never had a good woman manager so far. Let me know if your experience has been different from mine.
This generation is seeing a lot of divorces. I know 6 couples (my friends) who got divorced recently (in last few years). News about one of these couples shocked me as they looked really happy together. We never saw them fight in public and I couldn’t believe that they had issues with one another to the point of getting a divorce.
I want to change my career drastically as I am not enjoying what I am doing. My interests in life are completely misaligned with my career. I want to switch domain badly. Have you done anything of this sort? I am not sure how easy it is to change your career after working in a domain for a long time. Is getting back to college the best way to do that? I am not sure. I am not sure what I want to do in life. I think I now know what crisis in life looks like.
I have decided that I am not going to force my son to study or to get good marks as I feel there is no relation between doing well in school and in your career. I see people who hardly worked hard in school doing much better career wise, compared to those who slogged in school. Also the career path that he chooses is again left to him. I think I will let him choose something that he has an interest in, rather than pushing him into a career just because everyone else is.
Life has been too stressful from last few months. I am planning to relax this month and take it easy. Will be back soon with another post.