We are living in 21st century and I still have to explain people why we need feminism. *Super face palm* Women associate feminism with man bashing and keep saying I am not a feminist.
I see more women who claim to be anti-feminist in the society who have no idea what feminism even means. Feminism is not about man bashing. Feminism is all about equal rights for men and women. I am tired of explaining this every other day. Because women in the past fought for equal rights, we were able to attend school and get all the privileges that we have today. I read “The tenant of Windfell hall” which was written in an era when women were not sent to school and only men were sent. The author questions this in the book. My great grandmother never went to school, my grandmother never went to college, my mother did bachelor degree and I did masters degree. So we have indeed come a long way. This happened because there were men and women who fought against sexism and demanded equal rights for men and women. Women who are enjoying these privileges are now saying feminism is bad.
If you call yourselves a feminist, people start saying “shouting feminism will not make any difference. You need to work at grassroot level blah blah”. And this is what I feel – if more people start supporting a cause, it will happen. Like writing more books with women characters. Representing women in a better manner in media. Encouraging young women to achieve something in life (marriage is not an achievement). Holding a banner and protesting is not the only way to show support to a cause. You can show support in various simple ways. I am trying to read more women authors and also buy books by more women. It can even be as simple as fighting sexism when you see it happening around you. I want a better society for my son and future generations where people are not distinguished based on their gender. Is it too much to ask?
Things are improving a lot. The cartoons that my son watches have a woman character in them. Because of this representation, I am sure my son will not feel weird about women doing construction work or designing robots in the future. I recently read Kameron Hurley’s “The geek feminist revolution” and I have to agree about one thing that she mentioned in her book – we are so used to seeing men and not seeing women in certain roles that it feels weird to see women. Like superheroes for example – there are hardly any women. I think some men feel insecure about losing all the extra privileges they enjoy as part of being male so they oppose feminism. Some men cannot tolerate that women who were always so docile are now voicing their opinions. But there are many fathers who want their daughters to live in a society with no sexism. Hopefully things will change soon.
An example for why we need feminism and how men are fighting for feminism too? Watch this video made by a father –