Our Christmas came early as our little one decided to move forward today. I am so happy that he started crawling. I have been waiting for this day ever since he was born. He is now independent and can easily move around. This also means we need to be extra vigilant all the time. He completed a long stretch of crawling and then was really tired. Hubby and I were literally jumping as an “achievement got unlocked” (video game terminology). 😀
From last month, it is just hubby and I taking care of the baby. It has been really tough managing alone, without parents. But hubby has been so helpful, I can’t thank him enough for being such a good dad. I want this post here so that I can get back to it whenever I am angry with hubby.
Husband has been cooking ever since I became pregnant. I had nausea so he took over the kitchen for the entire time, till my mom arrived. I haven’t heard any other husband do that. One of our friends had hired a cook, but hubby cooked healthy food for me at home. We did eat out a lot too, but he made sure I did not have to stress myself with cooking. He would even pack my lunch box and took care of other household work like grocery shopping, washing clothes and utensils.
Now once we have been back, he has been cooking on weekends so that I can take care of the lad without worrying about cooking. He has been washing clothes, baby’s bottles, utensils daily. He takes care of the night feeding for the baby. Also when baby wakes up multiple times in the night, he takes care of him. I do the day duty of taking care of the baby and sleep during the night. I am not sure how many husbands do all this.
I recently read an article on some blog about how taking care of the baby has been solely blogger’s responsibility and how her husband does not help her much. She said that her husband would hang out with friends on weekends. I also see Facebook updates of a friend who goes to movies, even though a small baby is at home. He posted an update about having a baby and the very next day he had an update about being in a movie theatre with friends. I think that is really insensitive. My husband did not go out anywhere after baby was born. He never left me alone at home to deal with the baby. We divide all the work between us so that neither of us is overwhelmed.
I also see a pattern in some friends. They leave their baby with the nanny or grandparents and then go out on date nights or to parties. I am not sure I can ever do that. Whenever we go out, it has been all 3 of us so far. My parents never had fun without me. They always took me with them to every party or social gathering they went to. I feel so guilty and am so worried about the baby all the time. Also he misses me when I am not there and I miss him too. We took him to San Francisco recently (his first official outing in US) and he enjoyed a lot! Leaving him at daycare has been the toughest thing I have ever done. I cried more than him on his first day at daycare.
This week is a short week. I am just waiting for the holidays now! Merry Christmas and Happy new year!