We were watching a movie yesterday, in which one of the actors said something that struck a chord with me. She said that she was a quitter, that she never finished anything. All that she did was start something and then switch to something else that distracted her. I am very much like her. My interests have never been constant. I might find something fascinating today, only to find out that I am bored of it the next day. My interests and hobbies keep changing with time. This is where things go to waste. I splurge large sum of money on something that I may use only for a month. And then just because I poured money into it, I push myself to do something about it. This keeps happening until I realize that I have too many interests. I then give up as I am not capable of following up every single hobby or interest. So this is what has been happening to me for a while now.
These days I am pretty scared of investing my time and money on a new hobby. I know this is a fling and I will get over it, once I find something else that sounds more interesting. There was a time when I was obsessed with science. Whenever I was free, I would watch science shows. I do that even now, but the amount of time spent is less. Then it was painting, which I still love to do but somehow do not make up any time for it. And then I was interested in astronomy and telescopes. I still am interested, but hubby seems to have lost interest. So we have not been going to the meets and I am cribbing about all the money that we poured into it. Then it was photography and travel. I would spend hours writing travelogues, which I totally got bored of. I think I have to blame myself for that as I overdid it. But I am sure I will make a comeback there when I get some free time. And then suddenly now I have turned into a health freak, trying to keep a nice skin, hair and body.
Sometimes I am dying to post something on my blog, while sometimes I am bored of doing that also. Same goes for commenting on other blogs. Although I daily read posts written by other bloggers, my interest in commenting keeps wavering. I even tried my hand at Origami, when I was unemployed for few months after I got married. I found it boring after few days. I tried my hand at knitting and crocheting. While I love these two, I somehow do not find the patience to knit after a stressful day at work. In between, I was interested in trying new recipes. That interest died very soon as I have always hated cooking. If God gave me one wish, I will ask him to make me a boy in my next birth. I hate the fact that I am supposed to cook and clean, just because I am a woman.
But there is one interest that has not changed ever since I was a kid and I doubt it will change ever. That interest is in reading books. I can happily buy books as I know deep down that I will definitely read them one day. At least those books will not be discarded unread.
Thankfully I am not active on any social network, so that does save some time. I just glance through updates on Facebook once or twice a day and that’s it. I never quite liked twitter or instagram. I tried pinterest but did not get drawn into it. My tumblr blog is almost dead. I have completely stopped chatting with anybody. I do not even login into my gtalk or yahoo messenger anymore. I stopped chatting when I was very busy because of work, and then gradually I lost interest. I did not want to resume chatting as I feel it wastes lot of my productive time. But I do spend time on Feedly, going through blog feeds as I love reading blogs. The only place where you will find me little active would be Goodreads. I love that site so much that whenever I find some free time, I login into that site and read reviews about books.
By the way, this applies to my career as well. I willingly chose this career path as I found it fascinating. But now I sometimes find other careers interesting. I even think of changing my career, but then I realize that I might get bored of the new career that I chose very soon. So there is no point in switching careers.
Ah! that’s why I say I am “jack of all trades, master of none”.
I think you’ve been fairly consistent in reading and writing blogs. And as you say, reading books. Maybe even watching movies and going on tours/trips.
I think what you described happens with everyone. The timeframe over which we lose interest might differ, but I think it is an essential process we need to go through to discover our true and long lasting passions.
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Agree DI. I have been consistent in doing few things in my list. Hoping that these changing interests will help me in understanding what I am truly passionate about.
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haha good to know. That’s life isn’t it. We need change constantly. The new change becomes monotonous soon.
And Whyyyyy hubby lost interest in astronomy? BTW I have missed many of your posts, need to catch up with that!
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That’s true D. We always need some change in life. 🙂
Need to pull hubby to some of the meets. He suddenly lost interest for some reason.
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I think this is what is called the law of diminishing return. New experience excite humans. There could be a small depression scale. The first experience would be exciting. The second would be interesting, the third would be routine, the fourth would be boring and the fifth would be depressing.
I know your interests are not constant. In almost everything including changing your career. But, puleeze Ash, don’t ever think about losing interest in your spouse.
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That’s true SG. New experience is always exciting to us.
Hehe I don’t think I will lose interest in spouse. I am opposite when it comes to people. I don’t easily make new friends 🙂
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I think it happens with everybody..even I feel the need for change so much that my hubby keeps joking that I shouldnt think about changing him too:)
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🙂 Nice to know that even you are like me Renu.
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I actually always see your photography posts and think you are so awesome because you have a consistent hobby!
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Thanks Preeti 🙂 Hopefully I will continue that hobby for sometime.
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Hmmm I think that is with alsmost everyone.. we get interested and then lose interest..I have done some of these little things and wasted money too..
And like you I am not active on social media other than blogs.. no FB or tumbler etc actually I dont evem know what tumbler or pinterest is ..havenot seen them..:)
So dont worry if you get born as a boy yiu will face the same then too..
Take care and all the best
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Good to know even you are like me Bikram. These days people are so hooked to social media. People like us are pretty rare to find I guess. 🙂
Thanks Bikram.
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I could have written this post. I do the same things too.. My interests keep wavering too and the one thing which I have never lost interest is reading books 🙂 and same on the commenting, I read it and I start commenting and I just close the tab or something..
I love pintrest though. I love cooking too, but not so good at it 😦
And my new intrest has been helth too 🙂 Lost a few kilos and pouring money on pampering myself.. Don’t know how long that will last 🙂
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Nice to know there are other people who think like me. I was starting to think something was wrong with me.
Same here. Don’t know how long I am going to dedicate time and money in the name of “healthy” life. 🙂
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Lol at wanting to be a boy…to be honest, you are not expected to cook or clean just because you are a woman. I have a coleague who hates all of that and her husband does the cooking and the major cleaning. My ex and I would share the load to both…no way was I cooking for two people every day! 😛
As for changing interests, sometimes I think that just comes with growth and changes in personality, don’t you reckon? Just wondering…
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Yeah as long as I am in US and my relatives are not around, it is fine. We divide the work at home and hubby contributes.
But the problem arises when I am in India and people expect me to do everything, only because I am not a man. That really pisses me to no end.
I think what you said makes sense about changing interests.
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You are not the only who keep on changing interest, Ash! Some people stick to one for a bit longer time but most of the people get bored easily. My knitting wool is sleeping now after I knitted some 5-6 sweaters! Music note books are sleeping. I sold my sewing machine recently since I knew that I won’t stitch anymore! But I went through many ‘hobby phases’ like you!
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oh even you are like me Sandhya. I guess everyone is like that. Good to know I am not alone. 🙂
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I could have easily written this myself. I am just like this. Fascinated and smitten by a new hobby like crazy for few days and then, just a look at it’s stuff, I feel blah! Same is the reason I get bored so easily at my job. I get bored doing the same things.. It truly is a waste of money, many times.. I know.. I feel so guilty looking at all the yarn I hoarded in the pretext of knitting/crocheting! 😦
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Oh nice to know that even you are like me Arch. Same here, even I have yarn at home that I bought thinking I will be knitting. But never actually found the time to knit. 😦
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This is awesome. Being a jack of all trades is great. There is nothing lost here. Money, maybe. but its totally worth everything you get a try. We all, after all, live only one life. 🙂
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That’s true Dil. We live only once, so I guess it is not wrong to try new things.
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My take is how else would we know what suits us and what doesn’t unless we try it? At least, that’s how I justify to my husband when I want to spend money on my hobbies 🙂 It’s totally natural, I think. Not having a hobby sounds unnatural to me.
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I agree Nish. Unless we try something, we will not know if it is something of interest to us or not. I will use this next time husband says I am wasting money. 🙂
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isn;t that human? Most of us are like that! 🙂 I couldn’t agree more with everything that you have written. I have an attention span of a bee, I tell others. But yes, there have been some hobbies and interests which I have followed meticulously just because they are fun to do. Blogging for instance. Or reading. But new things, I feel, I am good with just the fling part. Nowadays I want to learn guitar! These are phases, and it’s fine, I guess.. Most of us end up becoming Jack of all trades and people who pursue relentlessly are people who are famous 😛 😛
So.. 😛
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Even I have very less attention span Mi. :)I have been wanting to learn guitar for so long now.
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I think everyone can relate to this. I am the same! I am surprised that I have been blogging for more than 3 years. I never stick to anything for so long.
You are only human 😀
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Haha same here Red. Even I am surprised that I stuck to blogging for so long. 🙂
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