I recently saw a TV talk show which had some single girls and some married girls on it. I couldn’t control laughing when one of the married ones said this – “Women were created by God in order to take care of their husbands and kids. This was the reason why Eve was sent with Adam – to take care of him” and she criticized those who were single saying their life was incomplete without a man. Let me tell you – she was not a desi lady from a remote village. She was not an Indian at all! I was wondering if this lady was in her right mind! But I guess lot of women and men still think like that. That women are meant for sitting at home and taking care of kids. I am not a feminist but I have seen most of my friends changing after getting married.
They think they have no right to do those things which they did when they were unmarried – like hanging out with girlfriends, reading books, succeeding in their career, spending quality time with friends and family(other than their husband). They kind of think that their life is all about husband and kids. We are in the 21st century and people still think like this 😮 I cant believe! Why don’t women think that they need to have a career of their own, have independence to do everything they want to do in life? Most of them think that their ultimate goal in life is to get married. They are least interested in anything else. Such women don’t have any ambitions in life. They don’t think that they should achieve something in their life on their own. And then they freak out if their husbands don’t have time for them. They blame their husbands for neglecting them if their husband wants to spend some time with his family/friends or is stuck at work.
I don’t think it is wrong to get married early in life. I have seen my school friends who got married right after graduation or when they were about to get graduated and now have kids! I sometimes wonder, what can you do in life after having a kid? You spend your entire life in nurturing it, making sure it gets good education etc. Is there any time left to enjoy your own life? to do the things that you want to do? And then there are some people who think a girl who is single is cursed or something. I would say that a single girl has the maximum independence – she can wear what she wants, she can cook and eat whenever she wants, hang out with any of her friends anytime she wants, works and earns her own money and spends the money on whatever she wants. She does not need anybody’s permission to do something. I have seen many of my friends who cancel plans to meet friends because their would-be/husband had different plans.
I would suffocate and die in such a relationship. I really need MY space!! One of my friend and I swore that we will not become victims to this marriage prison, that we will continue enjoying our life the way we do right now.
Single/Married – One should have time for himself/herself, to do what he/she “likes” to do. Life does not revolve in and around marriage. Marriage is just a stage in life. Learn to spend some quality time with your friends/parents as well.
What are your views about this?